Today I am pondering forgiveness, and when I have really struggled with it. For many years I have put others needs first, always been the good girl that does as she is told, and always gone out of my way to please others more than myself. With this endless mission to be the world’s best people pleaser, I carried a lot of resentment for when those whom I went out of my way to please, failed me, disappointed me or behaved in a way that was not forgiving. My reaction to those relationships was very much a cut the chord approach. I can probably count more than a dozen times when I have done this and when my hurt for others actions simply resulted in those relationships coming to a sudden end.
Sharon Pearson, author of the Ultimate You and the Founder and CEO of Australia’s number one life coaching school, The Coaching Institute, opened my eyes to the possibility of forgiveness. She has taught me that by resigning my people pleasing role, and focusing on opportunities to be compassionate, vulnerable and restoring my self esteem, then I can let go of anger, sadness and fears of not being good enough. By doing this I can start forgiving because my mind, my heart and my emotional truth is open to give more and receive more. Breaking away from my old values and beliefs that no longer serve me has been critical to my inner world change. It’s enabled me to move forward consciously with deep awareness of who I am, why I am the way I am and what I can do to change this.
And I do want to preface that forgiveness for me, is not about having I am sorry day every day and feeling “sorry” for people and their actions – hell no! For me its about my actions, what I can control and how I respond to life’s challenges when they come my way. To me its having a mindset that stops and asks, “what does love look like for me right now” and then behaving in a way that speaks to this.
So my ponder today is all about embracing compassion and how, when we tap into this, forgiveness come much easier. Whether we like it or not, we are all humans, and we all make mistakes. How we respond is what sets us apart – it’s what makes us a unicorn and its’ what leads us to being the best version of ourselves – our extraordinary self.
If you are ready to dive into your inner world change, and I know you are because you are here, then take action now and click for a free consultation. Unlocking your past and resigning your role, opens your palette of possibilities to be extraordinary – I know you want this.
